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Sunnyside Up! How your point of view can dictate your success.

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Are you the type of person that sees the silver lining or do you dwell on the looming rain? Is the cup half empty or half full? Your perspective can change your point of view in an instant; it’s up to you how you respond to that thinking.

Unhappy people are easy to spot. They are the ones with the rain cloud over their heads on a sunny day.  My daughters and I call them Eeyore(s) (he’s the sad donkey from Winnie the Pooh).  To them every event big or small has negative characteristics. A simple run through the drive through becomes a half hour long rant on how the burger doesn’t look like the picture and they forgot the napkins. We all know people like this in fact you might even be one of them. Even the best of us get a little caught up in these downward swings but if you don’t catch yourself and change your perspective you could be in for disaster.

Changing your perspective doesn’t have to be hard. It’s a matter of looking at things from all angles and following the path that leads to the intended result, success. Some might say the Eeyore’s of the world are taking the easy way out because they don’t try. I’m not convinced in the least that these people are choosing the easy way. From my point of view it’s a million times harder to be stuck under heavy negativity. It must be very hard to carry that kind of burden through out life.

If you’re stuck under a rain cloud and you’re finding it difficult to see the sunny side here’s a few tips to navigate through the storm.

Re-organize your surroundings.
If your personal space is in disarray your mind set reflects the same. It’s time to re-organize your life starting with your physical space. Get rid of the piles, the messes, and the cobwebs on the ceiling and you’ll find that you’re thinking more clearly in no time.

Don’t isolate.
Negativity often brings isolation for a couple different reasons; sometimes a person that dwells on the negative finds faults in others and decides to cut themselves off from the people around them or friends and family purposefully distance themselves because they’re left feeling frustrated or depressed after an afternoon with Eeyore. Get back into the swing of things. Reach out to people in your life who are more positive. If you’ve got a bunch of downers around you, you’re probably feeding off their energy. Switch it up and be the ray of sunshine they might need.

What’s the BEST case scenario?
Are you always thinking about the “worst case scenario”? If you are each “worse case scenario” begets yet another and before you know it you’re caught in a crazy cycle of doubt. It’s time to physically correct your posture and stand up tall to yourself. If you can dream up a “worst case scenario” then you most definitely can do the same for a BEST case scenario. Once you have that in view break it down into manageable steps. Do something everyday to move toward your best case scenario.

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The Double Edged Sword

Thursday, January 28th, 2010

Working from home is a goal for many people but are you the kind of person who can handle it?

It takes a special person to be able to handle the constant distractions life throws your way. Most people think it’s easy; you don’t have to commute, the lunches are onsite and the boss isn’t hanging over your shoulder. All true but if you don’t become the master at fending off procrastination and distraction, you’re in for trouble.

Even after 2 years working from home full time, I fight those ugly demons everyday (and yes procrastination and distraction are demons). Things like the dishes in the sink and laundry always need to be done. And when the phone rings, and it will especially when friends and family know you work from home, half the day can be wasted before you even sit down at your work station. If you have kids, guess what, they’ll be home in just a couple hours and you know what happens then… “Can I have a snack?” You get the picture.

You have to practice discipline daily and for some of us minute by minute.

Remember distractions and procrastination can easily turn into excuses for not having a productive day. If your conversations start out by saying to yourself, “I would have gotten to that but I had to (blank) instead,” you’ve got some work to do on managing your time more effectively and building discipline into your routine.

The best advice I can give you is to first set some real and true boundaries with your family and friends. Get in a routine and stick with it no matter what and be honest with yourself. Even if there is nothing on your agenda for the day, dive into some research and learn something new about your niche. Do something productive for your at-home-business everyday.

I wouldn’t trade working from home for anything. Even after all this time I still need to be sure to keep my routine in check. Truth is, I just might be the hardest boss I’ve had… I can get quite an attitude with myself and be a real hard ass when it comes to me! But that works for me. You will have to find what works for you.

Keep your chin up and make it happen!

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With Dawn, the Sun Rises

Saturday, January 23rd, 2010
Colorful windmill bus stop in Jalasjärvi, Finland
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Since both of my daughters are in school, I have a dedicated period of peace and quiet to concentrate on my writing. Lucky me! Not all work-at-home moms (Mompreneurs) have that luxury.

My morning starts out usually with my 8 year old daughter waking me up, sometimes frantically, other times by crawling in bed with me for snuggles and kisses. My 16 year old is generally in the shower by then. She can take hours to get ready… it’s tough being so cool! LOL.

After I walk my little one to the bus stop, I make myself a cup of tea and ponder my day. I sit down at my desk and look through my emails rather leisurely. The news is usually on in the background. It always makes me grateful at that time of day because I’m not having to rush out the door and commute to work or worry too much about the weather. I sip my tea and look for emails from clients. Of course, there’s always those times when an urgent request comes in from one them that says something like, “Help! I needed an article yesterday and I forgot to tell you! How soon can you fit it in?” So much for the peace!

I get started right away. First, I do a little research and give creativity time to take over my brain… and my work day begins.

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